Why do I want these things? (19)

1 Name: Confused : 2008-08-15 20:59 [Del]

Now I do not get why I like this stuff and tend to imagine myself as the girl whenever I see it. That is the only way I could see this stuff is if a girl is getting tortured and I am imagining myself as her. But here is the thing, I don't know why.

I was never abused as a child, never sexually or mentally. I say my childhood was good, but I feel as if I fucking missed out of my fucking teenhood because if my cunt of a mother baby me. Taking me out of school because she doesn't like the teachers/staff and she thought I was being "bullied."

I just feel confused why I feel like I want to be abused and controlled. This seemed start with just a fetish from being tied up. I remember I used to pretend I was kidnapped and bound myself with invisible rope. I loved my toy handcuffs and played with them a long time.

Anyways, are there people on here like me or am I alone? Do you know why I wish this?

2 Name: Anonymous : 2008-08-15 21:10 [Del]

You know, I think you should try to keep it one thread.

3 Name: Confused : 2008-08-16 04:13 [Del]

Alright I feel weird, but why do I wish I was these girls?
http://img100.imageshack.us/img100/7202/1175178259679zl1.jpg

4 Name: Envy : 2008-08-16 05:13 [Del]

Why do you assume to have to be abused as a child to enjoy this kind of thing?

If you like it then accept it and enjoy it rather than... I don't know, complain? If that's what you're doing.

5 Name: Rip : 2008-08-16 21:19 [Del]

It's true, you don't need to be abused in childhood to like gore. I was bought up wonderfully and, apart from a little bullying, was never hurt by anyone inside or outside my family. However, I've had an awareness of being a sadomasochist from a young age, and can clearly remember finding injury scenes on television fascinating and arousing, probably from early school age (6 or 7-ish). Some of my first pretending games involved me playing the person who gets hurt, and I seem to think that my first sexual fantasies involved gore.

While most people who are fond of guro put themselves in the role of the aggressor, it's definitely common for people to identify with the victim. I tend to identify with both, or it varies according to the character - I identify more with my favourite characters, lolis, and people who look like me. Whatever, you're not alone.

Exactly why we like it isn't easy to find out. It could be because the behaviour of someone who's injured can sometimes look like arousal. It could be the power exchange involved between the aggressor and victim. There's a lot of theories.

Anyway, I don't think it's harmful or even necessarily a bad thing to like guro, as long as you don't really want to hurt yourself in a way that isn't safe. If you haven't already, it might be fun for you to look into real life sadomasochism or body modification.

6 Name: Anonymous : 2008-08-16 22:00 [Del]

>Now I do not get why I like this stuff and tend to imagine myself as the girl whenever I see it.

Really, it could be anything... even empathy. If you like it, then fap to it, if you don't like, you don't fap.

7 Name: Anonymous : 2008-08-16 22:35 [Del]

>Why do you assume to have to be abused as a child to enjoy this kind of thing?

An organism strives to survive in the kind of environment it lives in, and according to it, the organism will adapt/re-adapt itself as it becomes necessary. No one is born enjoying or drawing guro, it is a learned process.

Genetic influence as well, but not as much as the environment.
Before assuming everyone is born enjoying guro, just because you were, so why don't you accept them and enjoy it, rather than... complain? At least, you're not the only person in the world who likes this kind of stuff.

8 Name: Anonymous : 2008-08-17 00:01 [Del]

2nd the comment about empathy. I get inside the females' heads in all my fantasies. Seems more interesting coming up with all the weird psychological/sexual stuff that i imagine them feeling as stuff is happening to them.

If you've spent like, 5 minutes, on the 'net then you should know there's no such thing as "Am I the only one who..." If there's one thing I've learned (and gurochan has played it's part), is that there is no fetish exclusive to any one person.

Sure we all have our own take on stuff, our own feelings and interpretations, but you definately ain't alone no matter what 'role' you see yourself playing in whatever dom/sub/guro type fantasy you have.

I'd say just explore your fantasies and enjoy it for what it is, something that makes you feel good. Long as you ain't hurting anyone else, the rest of the planet can just f-off.

9 Name: Confused : 2008-08-17 03:41 [Del]

>>6
So that doesn't make me gay?

10 Name: Confused : 2008-08-17 04:07 [Del]

It does necessary have to be Guro. It could be just require bondage and gagging. Like whenever I see something like this.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fLQ5MUrfnFE

I wish I was the girl.

11 Name: Anonymous : 2008-08-17 15:03 [Del]

>So that doesn't make me gay?

That makes you a troll. Also, SAGE

12 Name: Anonymous : 2008-08-17 18:01 [Del]

>>11
Did you just discover these threads? Confused isn't a troll.

13 Name: Confused : 2008-08-17 18:03 [Del]

>>10
It's alright to feel this way? Because I mostly cum whenever I watch these things on Youtube.

14 Name: Anonymous : 2008-08-17 18:18 [Del]

>>12
Anonymous is confused. Or the other way around, I'm not sure.

15 Name: Anonymous : 2008-08-17 18:51 [Del]

>>12
>>13
>>14

Same Fag.
Enjoy it: your fail.

16 Name: Confused : 2008-08-17 22:32 [Del]

>>15
I didn't post >>13 or >>14?

17 Name: Rip : 2008-08-17 22:52 [Del]

Imagining yourself as the girl doesn't make you gay. If anything, it might mean you're transgender.

It's normal for straight men to have fantasies about being a woman or about being gay, it's what you want to do outside your head that makes your sexuality. If you want to really be fucked by a man in real life, if you'd actually do it if you had the chance, you might be gay or bisexual.
As for being transgender, that's not just about pretending you're a girl - it's about wanting to live as a woman all the time, for the rest of your life.

18 Name: Anonymous : 2008-08-17 23:53 [Del]

>>17
A wise post. At last.

19 Name: Confused : 2008-08-20 03:29 [Del]

>>17
Well I am a bit afraid that I'll never really know how to please a woman if imagining myself as her makes me cum. How am I suppose to bring her pleasure when I want to be in her shoes? How will I have kids? Could you do the same thing if they woman is the dominate one and is on top? While you are on bottom?

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