Is it possible to be a lesbian, even if you are male? Because sometimes I wish to be a woman and I am just attracted to women. So is it possible? Also, if anyone knows of another place to discuss this. Please tell me. Since this doesn't seem to be the place for it.
p.s. I was the one who made the "I'm concerned" thread.
Also, I kind of feel more comfortable with someone (possibly a guy) doing my vagina if I was a woman and my girlfriend was involved in some kind of three way. Maybe she'll be a dom so she and he could take turns.
If you go through the surgery, sure. That's a long hard road though.
How old are you? You sound fairly young and inexperienced. The problem that I'm having with giving advice is that it's impossible to tell if you are going through some level of fantasy faze, or if you are dealing with the start of a lifelong issue.
The places I gathered info on the general subject have left the internet, so I can't give you those addresses. However, I'm sure every major blog site has communities for crossdressers or transgenders, and you may even find one or two that are for your area. Do a search there, and you may very well get a better response than you have here.
I'm kinda a loner myself, so I've only briefly browsed such communities.
Best of luck to you though, whatever or wherever this road takes you. No matter how hard it gets, remember that others have been where you are, and have pulled through. That means you can too.
Mr. Garrison?
The reason I began to suspect this, is because I went to see my bro do comedy at a local gay bar. I saw some pretty attractive girls there and they seem probably happy together. (Not the ones that look like men. Eww.) But I got to thinking, maybe it's ok to like women and want to be a woman.
Do you sometimes wish being female or all the time (even in entirely nonsexual situations, your everyday life etc.)?
In the latter case you might be transsexual, i.e. you're female "in the head" but not in the body. If you're still into females, that would make you a lesbian, yes. You probably want to talk to the doctors about a physical change.
If the former is the case, you might have picked up some kind of transvestic fetish, or you're bigendered (ask wiki).
>>7
I have asked myself so many god damn questions, and I hardly have any god damn answers. I have pondered the possibilities of being bigender. (Interesting use of Bi there.)
Most of the time I seem to like female sexual positions, but sometimes I wish I was a girl in real life. I really do not know what the fuck I am. I'm still confused.
>>7
But I heard that estrogen may make you start having an interest in males. I do not want to give up my attraction to females. :(
#9 That's not entirely true. In the case of many straight MtFs, the thought of another man would set their dysphoria off, thus perceived pre-transition-lesbianism is closer to a combination of jealousy and lesser-of-2-evils. Not the best way of explaining it, but it's kinda like that
Eddie Izzard, also refers to himself as a male lesbian so don't feel to weird about it.
>>10
So if the day comes I find out for myself that I really am more of a woman then a man. I may still have a interest in women? Because the thought of being a lesbian is beginning to sound very cool. I hope my girlfriend would treat me like I'm her property. :D
>>7
Likes the way you put that.
Truth is that there's only two ways that you will figure out where you stand on this issue. Time spent with a professional therapist, and good old experience.
Don't make any hasty decisions, but at the same time pursue what you feel to be right to the fullest you can.
Fuck, this is making me want to write a story about a transgender girl and her girlfriend who have adventures. Sounds like I have another idea for a story. :) I am beginning to feel cool thinking I'm a lesbian now. o.o
I'm a female gay, so I'd definately say it's possible. Eddie Izzard famously describes himself as a male lesbian, so there's precedent. I'm not transgendered, just bigendered, so I'm not sure if I'm in the same situation as you. I wanted to ask something of this board, though: should I be looking for gay or straight men as partners?
Eddie Izzard is a crossdressing comedian. It's not a precedent if he's kidding. <:3c
I think I'm halfway between bigender, tranny and having a scitso split personality disorder. whole new meaning to 'I'd fuck me'
>scitso
>schizophrenia
>split personality disorder
Nice self-diagnoses there. Even though those are two completely separate disorders. You reek of underageb&.
>>15
Look for someone you can love, and be loved in return.
That's my opinion anyways.
Why is it that young and stupid people seem to get stupider as I get older?
>Why is it that young and stupid people seem to get stupider as I get older?
They're not stupid. They're called trolls.
Check the forums over at:
There are plenty of male fans of lesbian porn who fantasize about being a lesbian woman.
>>15 bigendered
Oh wow. That's an interesting word you've got there. I've got to use that some time. Bigender, damn. Don't get me wrong, I'm not making a comment on your post.
>>19
Truth. It baffles me that no one seems to know what schizophrenia actually is or what it's symptoms are. They're perfectly content with believing that it means you have a split personality.
#24 It's because it's public truth - once something becomes public truth it doesn't matter how wrong it is, you're ridiculed for suggesting anything different. Yay for being pack animals...
#15 Bigender's a bit specific and difficult to deal with, I guess try with any, present as whichever you are at the time around them, make sure they know and hopefully some will put up with you (not meaning to sound insulting, just that the idea of bigender is pretty hard to get your head around). Just make sure you don't ignore the "conflicting" active half to appease them, that just messes you up
>>17
It's not part of an act I have actually had the chance to meet him before in Houston. He really does dress up when he goes out, it was actually pretty neat getting to meet him.
>>15 here.
>>20 Go with the flow? Obvious, yet strangely soothing when someone says it back to you. Thank-you.
>>25 How would I broach the subject with them? I mean, it's not an obvious topic of conversation. Maybe I should just present as both halves and see how they react? Because, I mean, there's not much hope for a relationship if they can't deal with a whole half of me. Thank-you!
>>24 Whut? I'll just take that as a positive. :D
For the last few years I've rather desperately wished I was female. Online and within rpg games I always identify myself as a female and the same is true for my sexual fantasies. I find myself jealously staring at girls on the street, picking out the one I wish I was :P
I've also been growing my hair really long and from time to time play around with crossdressing (I usually cover it up as cosplay - that way my friends just think I'm having a laugh).
But I really don't want a sex change because they seem to clumsy and incomplete. Actually, recently I've been thinking more and more about suicide in the hopes that I'll be reborn as a girl.
#28 - Find yeself a shrink, I would recommend. As incomplete as they are, MtF is pretty darn good (no childbearing capabilities, obviously, but other than that pretty good, yeah). At least properly consider the option of transition before commiting suicide
Shemales on the interweb
I'm the exact opposite of you. I'm a gayboy female.
Hey there.
>>30
Most MtF want to have the feminine problems, in case you didn't know.
>>28
I have thought like this myself, so don't feel alone. However I never once thought about suicide. If this is such a reward, then I rather die naturally when I am old. Yet I do not concern myself with it, because such a thing would probably never happen. Which is why I am in a rut. Like which path do I take?
i always make my rpg characters girls. recently i just cant help thinking i should be a girl. i feel exactly the same way. i spend half my non sexual time imagining myself as a girl just doing normal girl stuff. i am in love with a guy right now, but i know he will never love me the way that i am, so i just spend most of my time hoping i'll just get hit by a car so i can be re born as the girl i wish i was.
>>34
Well realize that if one could be reborn as a girl, it would make dying ever better when you get older. However there are great evidence that nothing happens, this is what keeps me alive. Plus the thought of having a wife keeps me going.
As for me, I tend to play female characters, rpg characters, etc. However as my name says, I am more confused because I am still attracted to girls, I wish I was a girl, yet others time I am happy the way I am. I hardly ever think about being married to a guy or just being with a guy unless I feel, "girlish."
Sometimes I wish I could have a boyfriend that treats me like a girl, yet at the same time have a girlfriend I could be myself with and love her as I would love her.
Its possible, I know someone who only has one last operation to go(snip snip), saving up for it last I checked, and she is in a relationship with, ironically, another tranny who already has the last bit done... kept hitting on me, it was kinda creepy... though for her sake, she thought I was 20 when I was actually 16 at the time.... damn... its been a few years...blinks
Wow, I didn't know others felt like this! Since puberty I would imagine being a woman and loving women. I dont know if I'd want to do men as a female, though I do like it as male. I don't know, I gues I might have some trans in me but not enough to actually crossdress or anything. But when giving the chance, playing online characters or the like, I always pretend to be female because of this want.
>>1 Someone could be transexual or transgender without being homosexual, lesbian or even bisexual. You could be completely straight and still enjoy crossdressing, or be a transexual.
I wanna be a dude, and I like dudes. So I'm a female faggot! :D
