I have a sadistic streak, I'm not a hardcore sadist, just what you could call a softcore sadist. I enjoy hurting people a little, nothing exaggerated, however, I am extremely terrified of physical pain. I also like to hurt hurt people to have an excuse to confort them, both hurting and conforting give me pleasure. So here are my two questions:
1- Are there other sadists terrified of physical pain?
2- Are there other sadists who enjoy hurting people to have an excuse to confort them?

>>>1 1- Are there other sadists terrified of physical pain?

No, you're just a pussy.

>2- Are there other sadists who enjoy hurting people to have an excuse to confort them?

Yes.

Isn't a sadist terrified of physical pain just called a bully?

>>4
Isn't a lawyer afraid of buses just called a watermelon?

1 - No
2 - Yes!!! Most of my fantasies involve nursing the people I injure. I also find it comforting to tend to my own wounds.

>>6
Part of my fetish is the opposite of what you stated--I'd want to be the person getting beat up and then cared for.

>>5

Hi! I posted >>4. I have to admit it, your post made me laugh my ass off!

I was sexually abused as a kid so I'm not exactly over the moon for physical pain. Never cut or anything.. just turned it emotionally inward. No self esteem, ostracised as a weirdo etc. 2 friends who like me for my personality but don't know about it.

There's been many times when I've thought of hurting my abuser or other irl people to sate my sadist urge which I'm not proud of, but I am proud that I'm adamant that I'll never actually harm another human (within reason, context etc), so you probably can't count me as a true sadist. I browse gurochan but it's really a fantasy outlet.

If I don't abuse others and am caring and nice to people who I think deserve it, then humanity is a fraction better I think.

That's all that matters to me anymore. I can't change the world. At least I can make a few people feel good about themselves before I die, however soon that'll be.

>>9
That's a good way of looking at things. It was horrible what you went through, but it's stopping with you.

And BTW, good things tend to chain react. Your outlook is quite admirable. :]

>>1 I'd rather not suffer damage. Pain is okay.

>>1

it's far better to give than receive, although I wouldn't want to do any major damage, just light electrical shocks or pain you can rid of with an aspirin or 2.

I also agree with >>9 only if they are literally asking for it, otherwise make them laugh. even if you'd love to rip out their spine and use it for shoelaces.

1- not quite a masochist,but not afraid of actual pain,and a nice slap is always nice. however I am terrified of cutting/breaking skin. Which is somewhat hypocritical considering im on gurochan and want to carve up some slut in fantasy lol.
2- not that much, but i do like to be kind somewhat. Sort of, let them know whats about to happen, let them cry on my shoulder for a few moments then bring the pain. Its more about anticipation for me than the aftercare stuff.

1 - Not terrified of the physical pain per se, it just doesn't do as much for me as other things. A spanking or slap will do, but under the context of being Mistress' pet. Flat out pain does nothing for me and like a normal person, I don't like it. I much prefer my physical punishments to be humiliating or objectifying. And when the roles are reversed and she's my pet, I don't hurt her just to hurt her, like cutting or burning her. I like using her and disrespecting her, not injuring her.

2 - I don't. I'm a sadist in my private life to only two people, to everyone else I'm a normal person, so it's not like I'd go out of my way to hurt one of my family members, just so I can comfort them. If they're hurt by circumstances that I had no involvement in, then I'd comfort them, but if I'm the cause of their pain, comforting them seems dishonest and manipulative.

1. What? Sounds like you're talking about a bully or maybe a cowardly ego maniac that abuses when he/she cans and then runs at the slightest sign of negative consequence.
2. I believe there was a psychological complex which described this fairly well. I forgot exactly what it was called, but apparently it entails usually a mother or parental figure that gets a rush from caring for their sick child, but then grows irritable if the child recovers.

Because of that, they inevitably begin to purposely inflict maladies and injuries upon their children in order to gain that sense of domination and control over a sick and weak child.

>>15
Yeah, I'm a coward in the face of danger or pain, but I like to hurt people a little

>>15

>I forgot exactly what it was called

Munchausen by proxy Syndrome

>>1

1. Kinda and 2. Not sure. I don't have the mothering genes in me to fake giving a crap. I do like to cause a little pain and take a little, but that's my little secret so don't tell anyone.

Pretty much I am fine with getting what I give. I like to bite but I love to get bitten more. You just won't ever find me whipping or getting whipped. Nothing that extreme for me!

Yeah, Personally I'm terrified of physical pain... save for biting and needles (yeah, I'm ok with needles)and small cuts, like, emo kid cuts, but I don't think really anyone (who doesn't have a phobia) is scared of those...

And yes! That is the entire reason I like Guro... I love to think about comforting and taking care of the people I hurt. ^_^ I just love to think about cuddling with some sweet little crying young guy after I bandage wounds I left on 'im.

1. no. i feel it's terribly unfair to torture someone else in ways you are not willing to be tortured. (turnabout being fair play and do unto others and all that rot) that being said i'm not interested in causing extreme or permanent pain, but i would like to find a partner i can cut who would cut me back.
2. i hate comforting people. if you can't suck it up cupcake, i want nothing to do with you.

I've always been confused by that whole hurt/comfort dynamic.

I too like to hurt and be hurt in order to be huggled afterward. It shows a dualistic mood, in which you can express both anger and discipline as well as love. The orgasm and sexual pleasure of pain (giving or receiving) is nice and all, but it's the emotional connection between the sadist and masochist that sells it for me.

In terms of degree of physical pain, I think I'd stop short of deep cuts. Clamps, candles, whips and very light, clean cuts are alright. Except burns; burns scare me.

I'm a sadomasochist, so I'm not really afraid of pain, but the hurt/comfort thing is a pretty important part of my sexual wiring. Ideally I like to take my partners a few steps beyond their tolerance so they're past begging, and I have frequent fantasies of maimed men (I'm a straight female) at my mercy to be patched up after by me.

For S&M play I usually try to do things to myself first to test them, and I like playing with switches because sometimes you don't realize how much it hurts until someone else does it to you. That being said, pain is very personal. I don't judge people based on their capacity to take (or even dish out) because my tolerance is often higher than people I play with and I'm certainly not going to start sticking needles under someone else's toes because I'm tough enough to take it.

To get my safe jollies I'm dating a hard core athlete who frequently destroys his body, and requires me to rub and sooth him, as well as being fairly active in S&M. I don't wish to leave scars or lasting damage, not because it grosses me out, but because I'd rather keep my fantasies of poking a man's eyes out as just that.

1.) Nope. I enjoy being hurt, so no. Although, I rather give than receive pain. There are certain body parts that I wouldn't enjoy being damaged, however. Like feet. Feet disgust me so I wouldn't allow anyone to try something with my feet. Other than that, I'm welcome to anything else, especially anything involving hooks and strangulation.

2.) Again, no. I don't hurt others just so I can comfort them later and play nice. Besides, I'm terrible at trying to make people feel better, whether it be physical or emotional.

1. watch ichi the killer
2. not as far as i'm concerned

1. Noooo. The only time I'm a little shy is when it comes to self-mutilation. I'm oddly calm if it's someone else inflicting harm.
2. The only time I find that appealing is in a non-consensual situation. Pure fantasy of course, but if a person tortures another person and then tends to their wounds and acts all caring just to mess with them some more... well, I'm all for that.

1. I'm barely submissive, but I do 'bottom' sometimes and I am a masochist. As for non-erotic pain, I go to martial arts and get battered with shinai on a weekly basis. In real life, I can definately take what I give.

While in real life, I'd in no way want any permanent injury inflicted on me, I do imagine myself as a victim of guro, either as myself, a fantasy persona, or an existing character. Often a male character, strangely enough - apparently, I'm fantasy-transexual.

2. Not really, although I do enjoy aftercare.
In fantasy at least, since I haven't needed that sort of comfort in a real life relationship, I actually prefer it when I'm being cared for after injury.

Yes and yes. I'm not a sadist of any kind, personally, but if there's anything GUROchan has to prove it's that you're never alone in your range of interests.

1) I wouldn't say terrified but I am not in any way sexually aroused by physical pain, though I do enjoy the endorphin high of getting tattoos.

2) Absolutely.

1) I wouldn't say that I'm terrified of it, but I certainly don't enjoy physical pain (the closest exception would be the endorphin high after a good workout or from getting a tattoo). I give the pain, it's the cunt's job to take it.

2) Absolutely. I love the mind-fuck of lulling them into a false sense of security and compassion and then betraying it with cold, brutal lust.

Sorry for the duplicate post. Firefox FTL.

>>30

Seconded.

1- Not terrified, but I don't like pain. I'm a bit of both though, but more sadist than masochist. But, to be fair, I won't deal out more pain than I couldn't feasibly handle. (in a sexual context anyway) Occasionally I have periods of time where I want to be the one who's hurt and dominated.

2- I love taking care of wounds, either on myself or others. I like the tenderness and intimacy of it. I'm always on the look out for an oppurtunity for me to be able to tend to a wound, it gives me a rush. But I'm not going to go around and give someone a big gash just so I could sew it back up.

im not a "sadist", i dont like inflicting pain (maybe small slaps, but I don't do it very often)...

1.- Yes, im quite afraid of physical damage if im not the one doing it
2.- Maybe, i dont know, but its not my case. If im the one who does the damage, i feel ashamed trying to confort them.

Killing people is fun (on Spore)

1. I don't really find comfort in too much tenderness, I like being chewed on, or have my skin and muscles "torn" (not literally). However, I don't like too much pain, only these common "wild" stuff.
2. I'm not the type who will nurse anyone, so I'd say no... But I have this quad-amp or ropes vibe that goes like "You're my hostage now, I can do whatever I want, so I'll have some cruel fun and please you in the end to make you want it even more." It's not really an excuse, just something like twisting the wrong into hot.

I'm a masochist, but I believe at this point I could be called an extreme sadist.
So I think they both go hand in hand, but my boyfriend is definitely a wuss when it comes to pain.

1) I'm not afraid of physical pain. However I do not enjoy it, which is why I'm a sadist and not a masochist.

2) I don't hurt someone to comfort them later. I hurt women because it makes my cock rock hard. So I found a woman who gets wet being hurt and we're both quite happy.

I have had fantasies however of comforting a woman who has been tortured. Though in those fantasies I was not the one who tortured her.

1)I'm feed by pain.
2)Sometimes I hurt people around me, then comfort them, but I do not enjoy it.

As a masochist, I'll say that...
1) I don't enjoy inflicting pain, unless it's a rape scenario, and it would be part of the scene for me to try to hurt my captor (and of course, eventually fail). I just only enjoy receiving it.

2) I don't want to be comforted in my fantasies. I want to be abandoned. The emotional aspect of feeling empty after being tortured is as equally exciting as the pain itself. However, I don't want to ACTUALLY be an emotional wreck for the rest of my life, so being comforted by a lover after being hurt by them is needed.

I don't feel like talking on the boards but MSN is great for me. Plus the site is killing my computer, lol. I know, it's lame, I can barely get porn, ugh. cough My MSN is kittenkaito@hotmail.com