I'm wondering what the sex life of the people who post here is like ... Do you incorporate any of your fantasies? I don't want to hear any confessions of murder here but what about S&M and (consentual) torture without any lasting crippling effects such as cutting, branding etc.?
Personally, the only sex I've had so far has been boring as hell. My partners (both male and female) all seem to be exclusively into tender lovemaking and when I suggest rough stuff they're all like "Why should I do that? I like/love you!" So I have almost stopped trying to get laid because it will only end up annoying and frustrating me.
My love life is normal generally, with a touch of fucked up ;)
I have scars from old relationships, too -- but only the fun ones are on the outside. ^_^
When I think about choking someone to death, or hacking someone up, it doesn't get me hot, as I've said many times before, which probably doesn't make me the ideal candidate to answer your question, but let me put it to you this way; what you like outside of the bedroom doesn't change when you enter the bedroom. Do people who get off to this slice each other up? Doubtful. That's called "murder" kiddies, and it ain't worth one bloody orgasm. However, do they completely forgo every aspect of their fantasies? Hell no. Who does? No one I want to be associated with, that's for damn sure. I'm sure there's some scars, but if they can manage to use their computer, they're obviously intact enough to say they haven't done everything they've maybe wanted to.
Personally, my sex-life is very fucked up in its own magical way, but, again, I'm not into guro in that way, so whether that means something or not is really subjective.
Normal sex is for LOSERS.
"Do people who get off to this slice each other up?"
Actually, there are bbs' out there with people looking for other people to torture/dismember/kill..with the victim's consent.
At least that's what I have read in the news. See the two recent german cannibalism cases.
Also, normal sex is still better than no sex. I for one am what you could call a loser, being 23 and not having even kissed a girl yet. °^^;
>bbs' out there with people looking for other people to torture/dismember/kill
That's what I keep hearing. Someone got a link?? It's actually those cannibalism cases and not some fictional guro that got me interested in that ... kind of thing. I wouldn't want to kill and eat someone or get killed and be eaten but it would be soo romantic and cute if I could find a girl and we'd both cut off a finger and let the other eat it. Also, I'm simply curious what human meat tastes like.
>Also, normal sex is still better than no sex.
I used to think like that myself. It comes with the territory of being a virgin and finally wanting to experience "it". But trust me on this, once you've done it once or twize and the initial phase of being pleased as hell with yourself you'll quickly get bored and frustrated. I used to think to myself "Why am I even doing this? Jacking off is much more fun; because at least then I wouldn't have to pretend to be someone I am not, i.e. a normal, boring, average, "well-adjusted" person.
After a couple of GF's I figured out that vanilla sex wasn't going to do it for me, so I initiated things with my third GF right away with light bondage. It got rougher , but never got as far as mutilation (cutting/branding). We did do some breath play though, and I passed out a few times. And the other things that aren't rough that she did to me, oh my god!
However, now that I'm hooked on kinky sex, I don't have any interest in getting past the "feeling things out" phase of sex, I just want to jump straight into the satisfying stuff. I guess there's girls out there who are down with that, but I'm too disinterested in the looking to find them anymore (confession: it's been 3 years since I had sex)
Define "healthy" ... I would very much like a steady relationship with someone I love and who loves me back. But I'm not going to suppress who I really am to get there. As I said above that just doesn't work for me and I know that if I tried to do it for more than two weeks (my record so far) I'd go insane. I cannot be "cured" that way and frankly I don't want to be "cured". As for normal sex, well, I don't find it satisfying or desireable. I actually do like a bit of cuddling and being tender but only after I've been bruised and beaten and have bruised and beaten my partner.
I completely agree.
Other than the fact that I'm in no way a sadist. And I like cuddling other times, too. ;)
>>7
"both things which I've never had"
I spy idealism. Prepare for soul-crushing letdown in five..
four..
three..
>we'd both cut off a finger and let the other eat it.
That's the most adorable thing I've heard in ages.
>Also, I'm simply curious what human meat tastes like.
A very rich pork, I've heard. I've got a recipe floating around on my hard drive somewhere which suggests serving with pineapple and coconut milk.
My sex life is sadly not present. I'm with >>1 on "regular" sex being boring. While a lot of guro is fun to fantasize about, I do try to assure people that in reality, I am perfectly harmless, though I'd never pass up the fun SM aspect.
>>bbs' out there with people looking for other people to torture/dismember/kill
>That's what I keep hearing. Someone got a link??
Usenet (or for those who don't have access http://groups-beta.google.com/ ) is the main playground for people with cannibalistic tendencies/fanatasies or for those who're looking to put their fantasies into reality with consensual partners.
The cases I heard about lately weren't consentual though.
I can't comment the original question because I like harder SM but not guro (blood etc. isn't really my thing) and just stumbled here.
I'm still a virgin, and I have no idea how I'm going to convince any woman I'm with that I want to be smacked around and cut in bed.
I hate BDSM and those stupid, ridiculous looking leather outfits, as well as the whole humiliation and domination aspect... its just so goddamn dumb looking. I mean, can people really take this shit seriously? Some dork/dorkette in a leather outfit being bossy with you?
Being hurt feels really damn good near the peak of sexual pleasure, and thats all there is to it.
>I'm still a virgin, and I have no idea how I'm going to convince >any woman I'm with that I want to be smacked around and cut in >bed.
Try http://alt.com/go/p60947 to find the kinky girls.
>I hate BDSM and those stupid, ridiculous looking leather outfits, >as well as the whole humiliation and domination aspect... its >just so goddamn dumb looking. I mean, can people really take this >shit seriously? Some dork/dorkette in a leather outfit being >bossy with you?
Just because some dumb ass actors on TV can't do it any convincing or realistic doesn't mean it's like that in reality. Not everybody has any special clothing fetishes either.
It's just about power exchange, the way it's done is up to everybody who does it. Some want to be humilated, some just like the pain, different folks different strokes.
Okay well, for people curious and searching...
I'm a dom, found out it's sort of a natural thing for me (surprise, look where I've come for entertainment!). I just found these boards today and have spent the last counts five hours going through every image, comment, and collection available. More than once I've had the thought run through my head 'man, what the fuck is wrong with japanese people?!' but hey, here I am, unable to turn away.
Scat does not interest me, watersports marginally so, freakshow stuff makes me drool, and the gore/death end is... well fascinating.
I've indulged in:
Bloodletting
Breath Play
Flogging
Whipping
Bondage
Branding
Piercing
Fireplay
Several other assorted sundry practices we will not mention that can be overheard and have me quoted somewhere later in life when I want to get involved in politics.
Look, BDSM and 'altplay' have been going on for a long, long, long time, and the darker side of human sexuality is something that needs to be explored safely and sanely. Yes, I'm fully to terms with my fetishes and kinks, and friends, it's liberating. Just, y'know... don't tell my mom.
Feel free to email me and discuss.
All but one of my girlfriends have been receptive to my watersports fetish. I've never lost a girlfriend because of my perversions, usually because I tell girls about them before they're dating me.
That does not mean I'm very good at keeping a girlfriend though.
Well my fetiches had really take all the place in my sexual life , that mean I have no more "real" sexual life as real sexual activities seem poor to me compared to the intelectual pleasure I have with my fetiches .
I must say also than I am rather "old" and have during my youngth full sexual activities ( maybe too much ) so sex is a bit disgusting for me and I see sex a bit like masturbation in other body . I continue to feel comfortable with tenderness and intelectual mutual intercourses , but physical sex is useless for me .
A normal sex life... nothing realy special! :p
Guro is like a other side of me.
I love the gore/death and the living/cute/breathing.
I love to have some human flesh to eat, as a part of sexual play or not. I'm undecided on whether I'd give up my own flesh. I simply can't think of a bodypart/place that would produce a quality 'cut' without much effect on obvious appearance. I'd love to have a calf muscle, or part of one, but I dunno if having half a calf [heh] would be noticeable or not. Any suggestions?
I've not had sex, but I'd engage in various forms of [homosexual] 'bathhouse play': S&M, orgies, watersports, etc. I wouldn't mind bloodletting or cutting with either men or women, though. I'm generally into biting and painplay, especially biting to draw blood. [both which I have enjoyed, but not in blatent intercourse] Funny, I've always despised vapirism fangirls/boys...
Personally, I'm shy and such, and really enjoy flirty or non-intercourse sexuality. I'm not particularly looking forward to having sex with a woman, for some reason; sex with men, however, would be fine. I'd rather put it all off. I'm male, BTW.
As much as I'd like to play the dominant role in an s&m situation, the fact that my partner can say "No" and I'd have to legally stop ruins the illusion of control. That doesnt mean I'd like to rape anyone I could get my hands on though ;) I would never push somone I loved and cared for further than they wanted, but I don't see myself loving somone with boundries lesser than my own. Ultimately submissive has the power. Rains on my bloody parade :(
Also, according to that survivors of that soccer team that crashed in the Andes, human flesh tastes like beef but slightly more tender. I dont wanna hear anymore of that pork crap xD
Why not try a total power exchange? There are sub people willing to do such a thing. Castration, nullification, 'consensual slavery' are all things that have been done in such a situation - why not the 'total control' you desire?
Not loving someone with boundaries lesser than your own is a good self-limitation.
lol
All I have is a foot fetish/domination fetish (both roles). I do look for things in women that most guys ignore though. For example.. I like nice hands (and feet obviously).
I also like to keep an open mind when it comes to fetishes and stuff though. I can easily see myself engaging in watersports, light SM, exhibitionism (WOO PUBLIC SEX), and anything else that a girl would want. Except scat and heavy cutting. Being a victim of food poisoning twice, I find nothing arousing about diarrhea or shit.
mmm hands... i love arms and hands. my boyfriends shaves his arms, and they're so lovely. i've always really fixated on those for some reason.
I thoroughly enjoy "normal sex" and all its variations, but I also enjoy being tied up, gagged, flogged, spanked, beaten, basically just hurt in any way. Poop is gross to me, and I've never been peed on/peed on someone. My husband wants me to find another girl for us to play with, which is fin ewith me but I'd also like to invite another man at some point (he used to be interested in the idea, but now he's all ""No, I'd get jealous" So bot fair). I'm fascinated by guro, but I wouldn't want to be permanently injured during sexplay. I have no desire to injure other people (also because the one time I tried to be dominant in bed he laughed at me and said "Aw, how cute! You're like a kitten pretending to be a tiger" That kind if put me off from any sort of being dom.)
lots of sexual repression goin on here
I've never had full-blown (i.e., coital) sex, and those who I have "fooled around" with always became alarmed whenever I started to get rough. I've pretty much done all the "normal" (mediocre) acts with the opposite sex--nothing exciting at all.
I'd love to get slapped around. I'd love to get(intentional) friction burns. I'd love to get bitten and clawed, whipped and bruised, pinched and cut up. And I'd love to return such favors.
But, alas...
>I've never had full-blown (i.e., coital) sex,
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>I've pretty much done all the "normal" (mediocre) acts with the opposite sex
paradox detector goes beep beep.
